This is a comment by Jonathan G on the post “I’m Sorry, But I Love You“.
Jonathan G said:
But here’s what I’ve noticed: Of course, women don’t date men because they are louts. Of course, they date them in spite of the fact that they are louts. But the kicker is that the traits that make men louts are the same traits that give rise to the qualities that women often seem to prefer…
Confidence? The grandiose self-image and entitlement of narcissism begets a lot of confidence. A focus on his own self-interest and a disregard for what she wants also helps a guy display confidence.
Excitement? The thrill-seeking impulsiveness that makes a guy exciting goes hand-in-hand with a focus on his own gratification and a disregard for others.
Power and social dominance? It often requires acting like a stone-cold jerk to other guys, and people with sociopathic personality traits obtain power more easily than others.
Game? If a guy has “got game,” it means he’s got practice approaching women, and he’s got plenty of opportunity to practice because he’s a “player.”
So, women are not choosing men because they’re louts, but from a guy’s point of view, all he can see is that they’re still choosing louts.
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